This is a very important question for seekers. Generally, a person is closely associated with his family and invests all his energy and time in them. He feels ‘this is my family’, ‘my wife’, and ‘my kid’. He leads his entire life in the same thought. This is a strong emotion in the family. When one is limiting oneself to this emotion, it is not possible to seek the truth. Seeking the truth, which we term spirituality, is only possible once you empty yourself of your emotions. Feeling nothing as mine is the absolute emptiness or zero consciousness required for spirituality. Feeling nothing is yours will accumulate a lot of things.
But then a question comes. If I don’t feel my child is not mine, then how do I fulfil my responsibilities towards them? Being responsible towards the child is different from feeling the child is mine. Many people confuse and mix up the two things. They cannot feel responsible for the child until they feel the child is mine. But the truth is that one cannot be responsible for a child unless they come out of the emotion that the child is mine.
Why this consciousness is necessary for spirituality? Because the little mind with all its emotions cannot come into spirituality and ask the question “what is Me”, “what is Mine”. In actuality, “I” is always different from “Mine”. The “Me” will never want to have anything like “Mine”. Unknowingly, our minds combine the Me and Mine and create emotions for everything around the Me. It is very difficult to take this stance and be in it. This is the real kriya that has to happen inside all the time. But people restrict it to do some set of breathing and sitting quietly with closed eyes as kriya.
